The moment we arrive at adulthood, things in life just becomes “so hard”. But is it really? Is It really that hard..?
No its not. Things don’t complicate things. People do.
There are many things in life which we wanted but either never attempted it or just gave up. But the reality of it is was never hard. We gave up or never attempted only because it required a bit more effort, a change in mind-set or a requirement to do something you have never done before.
We can have all the knowledge we need to get the job done. But why won’t we just do it?
In my own life there have been so many things I’ve wanted to do and so many things I have attempted. in fact, I’ve started 90% of the things I’ve always wanted (even if it meant just writing it down on a page. The problem with me is that I never complete tasks. That’s the primary reason as to why I am not a millionaire yet!
As I have researched all tasks and now possess all the knowledge to get whatever I want, why is it still “so hard”? Well, through justification (excuses) I can tell you and because of this I have mastered the art of “starting” other than finishing.
I’m a perfectionist. If things aren’t perfect, I would either discontinue the project I have undertaken or I would not start it to begin with. It is representative of disappointing others of suppose. not being good enough. I also know that nothing is perfect but understand that everything can be great!
I consider myself to be somewhat introverted. I dislike the idea of being centre of attention and being made a fuss of. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” I have a tendency to get ahead of myself and think “what if unable to remain a private person? what if the world needs me?
I generally consider myself to be a hard worker, knowledgeable and open to change. So I don’t think those are contributing factors in getting the job done.
Lack of motivation? I have also considered my reasons and motivation behind wanting to do certain things and I got the same results…. because I want it! because I can! and because that sense of accomplishment will bring great happiness to my life and others. None of my personal dreams/goals are for the intention of power and status. Perhaps money as it does pay the bills. But it has always been for sheer passion and love. “If you do what you love, the money will follow” is something I have strongly believe.
But my problem is this…. Having identified my problems (barriers), knowing what I would like to achieve, and for the most part having access (or means) to get things done. Why do I find great fulfilment in continuously and consistently motivating others to achieve their own dreams and goals for a more fulfilled life but I remain to not complete my own?
In the hope of writing about this, I aim for this to be a constant reminder of my personal challenges. I also hope that many of you can join me on my journey to becoming a more fulfilled individual.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson